Yesterday for the game some family showed up to my parents house, uncle cousins, the regular people. I was not there I watch the game like I usually do , alone, not really, I enjoy it more when I am alone. About an hour after the game ended I get a text from my sister that my nephew had gotten in a fight with my cousin's son, about 4 months younger than my nephew. She went on to tell me that my nephew, Douglas had hit hit a few times and had bruised the other kids face a bit; my nephew in 4 and a half. I asked her why the fight started, what did my cousin had said, and if she had punished Douglas. Her answers where that Antony, my cousin's boy had been bothering Douglas, Antony a tough kind of kid, you know the kind. I can always play a bit more rough with him without any worries of him complaining, he just keeps going at you until he tires you out. I also know that Douglas is the kind of kid that goes up to you and pinches you when no one is watching and then tells everyone that he did nothing wrong. Who started the bothering I don't know, it does not matter? She told me that my cousin had given her a bad look to which my sister responded, that ifd he did not want his kid to be beaten up to tell him not to bother other kids. Punishment? For what! He had not started it.

Ok, I have been involved in a few scuffles, some of you might have read about the time I almost lost my thumb, but I you have to push me very hard for me to lose it that way. And I always know its wrong, but at those times I am the one who will lower his head like a bad little dog does and apologizes even when the fight was not my fault. My nephew is 4 and a half and he has to learn that he could have walked away. He is the instigator most of the times, and even when you have told him to cease, he continues to bug people. Was it his fault, maybe, maybe not, I was not there, so I will give him the benefit of the doubt and say it was not my nephew's fault, but he needs to learn to control himself, If I have so can he. He is already out of control the only one he listens to is me, maybe cause I do not give him any slack, because the moment I do, who will stop his shenanigans. He should had been punish for the act of fighting alone.

Not only did he not get punished but he got a new fire truck toddler bed. Great, reinforcement! I am not a psychologist, in fact I don't like them, but I can see everything that is wrong there, why can't they? Seriously, why even try? Because I am his uncle. Many have told me to not try so hard. Really, damn, that's too bad! I am not saying I am an angle or should be a saint for trying to get my nephew in line. I am doing it because he is little and needs to learn. How could I look at myself 15 years from now if I don't do anything. What if I fail? I can still say I tried, and hopefully soon Douoglas will see that.